We have been married since 1995, and together we have three (almost) adult girls. Søren is an engineer, while Ulla is a researcher and heads a section at the Center for Clinical Research and Prevention.
Throughout our marriage, like most other couples, we have had our share of ups and downs. We have experienced challenges with different family backgrounds, different expectations for marriage, lack of communication, misunderstandings, etc.
We have been through crises that have cost many tears and required forgiveness and the rebuilding of trust. Through this we have received help and experienced great value in talking with other married couples and learning more about what is important in a relationship by participating in, for example, marriage courses. This experience has given us a desire to make ourselves available to couples who struggle with different challenges in their relationship.
We are not professional couples therapists! But we would like to offer to meet over a cup of coffee and listen, talk and pray together with you.
Our experience is that sometimes this is enough to loosen what is a little difficult, and often it simply helps to talk about it and gain some other perspectives on the challenges you are facing. It is so important not to struggle alone, but to tackle the challenges before they grow too big and become too overwhelming to solve.
Our background: For a number of years we have been a mentoring couple for engaged couples (20+ couples). Through nine engagement conversations, we talk with engaged couples about everything from identity, family background, spiritual life, communication and conflict resolution, sex and sexuality, finances, etc.
Since 2010 we have also helped organize an annual marriage weekend for couples of all ages.
In 2018/2019 we participated together in Agape's course in Pastoral Care and Family Counseling, which has given us good tools to understand ourselves and others better, and also to talk about the many aspects that matter for thriving and growing in a relationship.
Send a text message to phone 25884985 or an email to ustoft@gmail.com.
